Your Excuses Sound Reasonable - That’s the Problem
- Abhi Vish
- Feb 28
- 2 min read
Ever told yourself:
“It’s just not the right time.”
“I’m not ready yet.”
“I don’t have the experience.”
They all sound logical, right? That’s exactly why excuses are so dangerous.
They don’t show up as obvious red flags. They show up as perfectly reasonable justifications… so convincing that you don’t even question them.
And before you know it, weeks, months, or even years pass by while you’re still stuck exactly where you were.
Because let’s be honest, it’s not about ‘logic’. There’s something deeper.
The Hidden Fear Beneath Every Excuse
Behind every excuse is fear—and fear has many disguises:
Fear of failing (What if I try and it doesn’t work?)
Fear of judgment (What will people say if I mess up?)
Fear of uncertainty (What if I step into the unknown and regret it?)
Your brain is wired to keep you safe, and that, unfortunately, also means keeping you stuck.
So the moment you think about taking action, that inner alarm goes off:
🚨 Too risky!
🚨 You might embarrass yourself!
🚨 Maybe later would be better!
And just like that, you retreat back to what’s familiar.
But here’s the twist…
Fear Isn’t the Real Enemy
Most people think fear is what holds them back.
But what if fear isn’t the real problem? What if something even deeper is keeping you stuck?
The painful truth: Deeper Emotions.
It’s not just about failing—it’s about what failing might say about you.
What if you try and fall short?
What if people see you stumble?
What if they judge you for it?
Be honest—what feels worse:
❌ Missing an opportunity?
❌ Or taking the chance and having everyone see you fail?
Beneath every excuse, there’s usually a deeper emotion… like shame.
Shame convinces you that failure defines you.
Shame makes you believe that if you mess up, people will see you as a fraud.
Shame tells you it’s safer to not even try.
And sometimes, it could be another deep emotion, like guilt - the feeling that you don’t deserve success or happiness.
These deeper emotions are why you keep talking yourself out of things.
So… How Do You Break Free?
Not with motivational quotes.
Not with another pep talk.
Not with sheer willpower.
Because excuses aren’t just a mindset problem—they’re an emotional one.
You don’t need more discipline.You need an emotional shift. A deep recalibration of the emotions driving your decisions.
Once you break that emotional barrier, action becomes effortless.
Fear no longer dictates your choices.
And that’s when everything changes.
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